The world is a scary place. So many hard things. So much to cope with.
There are storms, fires, floods, hurricanes, tsunamis,
tornados, car accidents, the random building collapsing, a stray bullet firing,
a simple trip and fall, that can change or end lives. Not to mention sicknesses of all kinds.
Then there is the simple fact of being human. We make mistakes. We hurt others when we
don’t mean to. We disagree, sometimes with a fervor that wounds. We inadvertently trigger each other. And there are many angry, frightened, selfish,
misguided people who think they have the right to hurt others, and do.
Most of us carry wounds – memories, emotions, scars from the
past. We may feel trapped by traumas
large or small. We may live in fear of
this pain happening again, or relive it in flashbacks or intense, confusing
We can so easily feel scared, sad, overwhelmed, annoyed,
enraged, guilty, ashamed, helpless.
How do we help ourselves live in a world full of fearful
We learn comfort. Perhaps
we have come to this crazy, volatile, painful, messy, unpredictable world to
learn comfort. So, so, so important to
build comfort into our lives.
How do we start? With
one thing, a tiny little bit of comfort.
One deep breath, one tiny thought of self-kindness. One person who
We can seek and find a variety of tools – the ones that work
for us, whether they work for anyone else or not. Talking, silence, music, dance, breathing, books,
writing, moving, movies, art, therapy, work, play, deep diving into
ourselves. We can find thoughts,
feelings, animals, people, beliefs, activities, philosophies that bring comfort,
and root out the ones that do not – examine them, explore them, listen to them,
gather their wisdom, eventually thank them for their gift.
We can find the things that are hurting us and learn to
release, relieve, integrate. We can
learn to avoid things that cause us harm.
We can accept that pain may arise on the way to comfort. We can learn to hold on, get help, move
through, get to a better place. And we
can grab hold, even if just for a moment, of whatever beauty, sweetness, fun,
excitement, enjoyment may happen by.
We can learn to believe that we are worthy of comfort, that
finding comfort is a worthy lifelong quest.
We can make it our constant goal.
We can remember to first put on our own oxygen mask, to first comfort
ourselves. We can know for a fact that this
brings comfort to others, adds to the love and peace of the world.
We can keep looking for new comfort, tune our radar for
it. Comfort will begin to show up. Bit by bit, it can fill our life.